selftests/bpf: Fix sk_assign on s390x

sk_assign is failing on an s390x machine running Debian "bookworm" for
2 reasons: legacy server_map definition and uninitialized addrlen in
recvfrom() call.

Fix by adding a new-style server_map definition and dropping addrlen
(recvfrom() allows NULL values for src_addr and addrlen).

Since the test should support tc built without libbpf, build the prog
twice: with the old-style definition and with the new-style definition,
then select the right one at runtime. This could be done at compile
time too, but this would not be cross-compilation friendly.

Signed-off-by: Ilya Leoshkevich <iii@linux.ibm.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230129190501.1624747-2-iii@linux.ibm.com
Signed-off-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>