linux: make linux_netlink_p->msg_from_linux be able to fail

The KPI for this function was misleading. From the NetLink perspective it
looked like a function that: a) allocates new hdr, b) can fail. Neither
was true. Let the function return a error code instead of returning the
same hdr it was passed to. In case if future Linux NetLink compatibility
support calls for reallocating header, pass hdr as pointer to pointer.

With KPI that returns a error, propagate domain conversion errors all the
way up to NetLink module. This fixes panic when unknown domain is
converted to 0xff and this invalid value is passed into NetLink
processing.

PR: 274536
Reviewed by: melifaro
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D44392

netlink: use protocol specific receive buffer

Implement Netlink socket receive buffer as a simple TAILQ of nl_buf's,
same part of struct sockbuf that is used for send buffer already.
This shaves a lot of code and a lot of extra processing. The pcb rids
of the I/O queues as the socket buffer is exactly the queue. The
message writer is simplified a lot, as we now always deal with linear
buf. Notion of different buffer types goes away as way as different
kinds of writers. The only things remaining are: a socket writer and
a group writer.
The impact on the network stack is that we no longer use mbufs, so
a workaround from d18715475071 disappears.

Note on message throttling. Now the taskqueue throttling mechanism
needs to look at both socket buffers protected by their respective
locks and on flags in the pcb that are protected by the pcb lock.
There is definitely some room for optimization, but this changes tries
to preserve as much as possible.

Note on new nl_soreceive(). It emulates soreceive_generic(). It
must undergo further optimization, see large comment put in there.

Note on tests/sys/netlink/test_netlink_message_writer.py. This test
boiled down almost to nothing with mbufs removed. However, I left
it with minimal functionality (it basically checks that allocating N
bytes we get N bytes) as it is one of not so many examples of ktest
framework that allows to test KPIs with python.

Note on Linux support. It got much simplier: Netlink message writer
loses notion of Linux support lifetime, it is same regardless of
process ABI. On socket write from Linux process we perform
conversion immediately in nl_receive_message() and on an output
conversion to Linux happens in in nl_send_one(). XXX: both
conversions use M_NOWAIT allocation, which used to be the case
before this change, too.

Reviewed by: melifaro
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D42524

spdx: The BSD-2-Clause-FreeBSD identifier is obsolete, drop -FreeBSD

The SPDX folks have obsoleted the BSD-2-Clause-FreeBSD identifier. Catch
up to that fact and revert to their recommended match of BSD-2-Clause.

Discussed with: pfg
MFC After: 3 days
Sponsored by: Netflix

netlink: add netlink support

Netlinks is a communication protocol currently used in Linux kernel to modify,
read and subscribe for nearly all networking state. Interfaces, addresses, routes,
firewall, fibs, vnets, etc are controlled via netlink.
It is async, TLV-based protocol, providing 1-1 and 1-many communications.

The current implementation supports the subset of NETLINK_ROUTE
family. To be more specific, the following is supported:
* Dumps:
- routes
- nexthops / nexthop groups
- interfaces
- interface addresses
- neighbors (arp/ndp)
* Notifications:
- interface arrival/departure
- interface address arrival/departure
- route addition/deletion
* Modifications:
- adding/deleting routes
- adding/deleting nexthops/nexthops groups
- adding/deleting neghbors
- adding/deleting interfaces (basic support only)
* Rtsock interaction
- route events are bridged both ways

The implementation also supports the NETLINK_GENERIC family framework.

Implementation notes:
Netlink is implemented via loadable/unloadable kernel module,
not touching many kernel parts.
Each netlink socket uses dedicated taskqueue to support async operations
that can sleep, such as interface creation. All message processing is
performed within these taskqueues.

Compatibility:
Most of the Netlink data models specified above maps to FreeBSD concepts
nicely. Unmodified ip(8) binary correctly works with
interfaces, addresses, routes, nexthops and nexthop groups. Some
software such as net/bird require header-only modifications to compile
and work with FreeBSD netlink.

Reviewed by: imp
Differential Revision: https://reviews.freebsd.org/D36002
MFC after: 2 months